The idea of ‘getting rid of’ something means that the item/issue is simply no longer there — nothing to get ‘free from’ or to manage or to react to.  So, absence of is a pretty high/cool place to be!  And, it takes a bit of work.Control
A person tends to be a controlling person for one of several reasons:1.  They have nothing better to do themselves, so they focus on others.  Hint: Get a life.  Solution.  Find something better to do.2.  They are afraid of, or feel they cannot afford — emotionally, financially, physically or spiritually — the consequences of another person’s actions or of a life situation.  Solution: An ample reserve of time, money, love, space and opportunity.

3.  They are wired up to get their energy from others by trying to manage, push, cajole, be unhappy with, support or ‘grow’ the other person(s).  Solution: Unhook from the lives of others and find a new source of energy that is dependent entirely on you, not on others.

Judgment
I have been judgmental my entire life and am just now moving through this one.  These may help:1. Judgment is cool. It’s not a bad thing.  And, usually, you’re accurate in your assessment/judgment.  So, don’t try to rein in your logic/observations skills.  They are in fine shape. It’s just that they are being used from a skewed place.2. People are judgmental because the faults they see in others remind them of the identical or similar faults they themselves current have or have had.  This is a no-brainer.  Solution?  Come to accept the scores of faults you have and you’ll naturally stop judging others.

3. People have this judgment-reaction because it’s a ‘request’ from the world for you to work on something directly or indirectly related to what you are judging others for.  So, rather than suppress your judgments of others, learn to see this reaction as a great opportunity to resolve something about yourself, whatever it is.

4. People are judgmental because they haven’t yet perfected their own lives.  People who are VERY judgmental may have extremely high standards which aren’t yet being met.  So, for relief, they point to others in order to feel better about oneself.  Solution?  Perfect your life and judgmental naturally dissipates because it no longer has a place/need to exist.
Why is a business coach talking about control/judgment issues?

Because these are the top two emotional obstacles that get in the way of an entrepreneur’s success… Either because they want to control every little thing, or when they don’t get their expectations met, they judge their results or the people around them, or themselves. When you release the need to control or the compulsion to judge, you are free to explore your own talents/skills/gifts and the innate success of your entrepreneurial venture (in other words, you get out of your own way!).

Til next time,Coach Mo