You know, sometimes, a day off is a good thing. When people meet me and I tell them I am a business and leadership coach, it’s an unspoken but strong expectation of me to “always be on my p’s and q’s”. And then when they learn that one of my degrees is in Psychology, fuhgeddaboutit! They wonder if I’m analyzing them, or if everything that comes out of my mouth is some psychobabble Dr Phil gobbledigook (did I spell that right?).

Well, guess what, I am a spiritual being having a human experience just like you. I don’t have all the answers, and I certainly don’t have YOURS. But what I CAN do as a coach (and what we as human beings ideally will do for each other) is create the environment where you can find your own answers and implement them successfully.

I am a HUGE proponent of walking the talk. The people who know me well know that. I can’t teach what I don’t know, and can’t lead where I don’t go. But I also think that those who seek evidence of perfection are the ones paralyzed in their own inaction.

If you’re waiting for someone to lead the way perfectly before you make a move, you’ll be waiting a long time. I invite you to honor those who didn’t wait to have all the answers to dare to make a dream come true… those who didn’t procrastinate in the name of “it has to be perfect” in order to launch their business… those who never read a parenting book or took a marriage class in their life, but loved their spouses and children deeply and may have messed it up along the way.  Honor them, and be one of them.

It’s part of being human, people! Being human is messy, it’s not a dress rehearsal, things slip through the cracks, opportunities are missed, pain is caused and received. But you know what, that’s what makes us so glorious: To be able to experience abject pain, rejection, failure, and yet get up and try again. You can’t walk the talk unless you stop talking and take a step… and then another… and then another… and when you fall, get up and keep walking. You might need to stay on your knees for a bit to catch your breath, but then you get up and keep walking.

My job as a coach is to be the one that dusts your knees off and helps you back up again so you can continue your journey. But YOU must walk it. It would be robbery if I or anybody took that experience away from you.

In the meantime, know that there are times when the coach falls on her knees too, and there are a few people around me that dust my knees off and help me back up again so I can continue walking MY talk. At the end of my life, I can confidently say that I didn’t spout off theories and suppositions. Instead, everything I ever shared was because I was a big player on the field of life, living fully entrenched in the human experience, not on the sidelines waiting for someone to make a foul so I can call it.

Wooo…. had to get that off my mind, y’all!!!